Don’t compare yourself to others, that’s when you start to lose confidence in yourselfUnknown
I have never been the kind of person who blows their own trumpet. I don’t highlight my achievements much at all. In fact, I hate being the centre of attention, good or bad. I just find it hard to talk about the good things I have done, so I just don’t.
This week I finished a three-month weight loss/cutting diet as part of my weight training by following an eating plan set by my personal trainer. By the way, I have a personal trainer and she’s amazing! I struggle with motivation and she helps me with accountability.
Anyway, I lost half a stone and, more importantly, I leaned out quite a lot. My clothes fit so much better, I’m stronger than I have been in a long time and I’m actually really happy with how it’s all turned out. But, until the last few days I hadn’t really thought about how much I have accomplished in the last few months. In fact, I’ve been fairly apathetic about it; as if anyone could do it, it’s not much to shout about. That woman on Instagram that I follow has already done that and more….I’m just me after all.
Granted, I haven’t made as much of an effort in the gym as I could have and the last few weeks of the diet were tough. I know that if I had made the gym regularly four times a week and not slept in despite my best intentions, my results would be better. But, that being said, since Christmas time, I have actually accomplished a lot. Not only am I feeling better in myself, I’ve been launching a business, I’ve started a new relationship and I am doing things I love.
Why do we downplay what we achieve?
I had a bit of a light bulb moment recently. I realised that it’s about time I started to really appreciate the things I have achieved so far. Yes, there is more I want to do. Yes, I need to really make these things a priority and get into better habits in order to do them. But, what I have so far achieved should only spur me on to bigger and better. Plus, I really shouldn’t be comparing my achievements to those of others.
It’s easy to make goals and find ways to achieve them. Once of the hard parts is acknowledging the little achievements you make along the way. The steps that keep you motivated and striving forward. The mini-milestones that keep you on track. I found that by recognising where I’ve done well, I have been able to take a step back and look at how I want to move forward. I can acknowledge and celebrate what I’ve done and, instead of lamenting what I didn’t do, strive to move on and keep pushing myself harder.